Friday, November 30, 2012

A Quick Foster Care Update

Like many things in life, foster care is a bit of a "hurry up and wait" situation. You take your classes and turn in your paper work, then wait. Then a social worker begins her visits and interviews with you, then you wait. Then once you're approved, you just wait for the call saying there's a kid who needs you!

Right now, we're at the second of the above waiting periods. Our social worker had to turn in all her forms and stuff about us last week, so theoretically, we're being handed over to placement to be on the list for all these three a.m. phone calls we've heard so much about. I don't know if we'll get a specific call telling us, "ok, you're approved, be ready," or if we'll just get that midnight phone call one of these days. (I'll call our social worker and ask about that, I guess.)

At our last interview, she told us she was recommending us for kids 0-6 years old, just one at a time to start off with. (We're open to sibling groups, but she suggests we ease into things at first!)

I've got a lot of nervous energy these days, and had a dream last night that we got a little baby named Claire, who was just a little younger than our Claire, so we had two Claires. Interesting. I have moments of anxiety, but mostly it's just excitement, and the peace that comes with knowing we're doing something we're called to do.

A fearful side of me dreams up worst-case scenarios of how our family might be affected, but honestly, the big "horror story" that comes to mind isn't even reality, but a line from Anne of Green Gables, when Mrs. Lynde warns Marilla about adopting, saying there was an orphan in some other town who poisoned the well and killed the whole family.

In reality, what I keep hearing over and over are stories of families and children blessed by fostering:
  • the mechanic at CarMax who told me about his best friend, whose family fostered throughout his growing up years, and who still considers all those children his brothers and sisters.
  • the old lady on a bus who told my coworker how she gets so many calls on Mother's Day from grown children she fostered. 
  • kids whose families fostered who are now going to school in social work and can't wait to become foster parents themselves.
Life won't be all sunshine and roses, I know. (One foster mom blogger I now read closes about half of her posts with the words "foster care sucks," mainly for how much the system jerks them around.) But we're opening our home in love and opening our hearts in faith. Can't wait to keep you posted!


Lisa H said...

Can't wait for you to keep us posted, too. This is such an interesting process. It has really made me think about it, too, and think that we should consider fostering when we have kids. I don't think we'd be very good right now since we're not used to having kids in the house, but I think that it could be a really wonderful thing. So, thank you for the inspiration. I don't know if we'll wind up doing it in the future or not but think of all of the people like me who are reading your blog and at least considering it. Looking forward to hearing many wonderful stories.

Katie Bug said...

Yay for hurrying up and waiting!
I'm sure you've already figured out a solution for housing your kitchen knives, but (just in case you haven't) one of my fostering friends told me that they have used something called Tot Lok on their kitchen cabinets. She said they are awesome!
One of the families in our church is currently fostering a sibling set. I was trying to explain what fostering is to Katelyn after we saw the family this morning, but I don't think I did such a great job. How have you explained it to Kate?


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