The title of this post is not to imply that I will be highlighting a book every week, but I do want to start showcasing certain books through my blog, and this is what everyone in the office is excited about this week (since it arrived from the printer the other day), so here we go.
Evon Flesberg, the author of this book, was a professor of mine at Vanderbilt Divinity (my one requisite pastoral care class). She wrote The Switching Hour out of a deeply felt mission to help children affected by divorce. I was not the editor of this book, but I have read the manuscript, and it is truly incredible, sharing the pain children go through living in the liminal state between two parents, two houses... two lives, essentially.
The Switching Hour helps parents, pastors, aunts, uncles, friends, etc. understand what children with divorced parents are going through as they transition between these two parts of their lives, over and over again. It also offers advice for things parents and others can do to ease the strain such a lifestyle puts on kids.
It's been getting a lot of attention already, partially because virtually everyone in America these days is touched by divorce in some way. (Matt and I are both fortunate to have parents that are still married, but we both have cousins who are children of divorce.) Family court judges and lawyers have talked about getting it for their colleagues and clients. Just seeing the cover or hearing about the book seems to spark conversations; the stories start flowing as people share what they (or their kids, or their nieces and nephews) experienced as a "Switching Hour child." One woman shared how she still can't bear to look toward the back of a Wal-Mart parking lot on Friday or Sunday nights; she hates to see the mini-vans idling there, waiting for the other parent to arrive to make the switch.
The book will be released on January 1, and I highly recommend it to any parent, pastor, or family friend who cares for divorced persons and their children. If I can snag a copy for Matt, he hopes to read it and will probably give a review (from a pastoral perspective) on his blog, matthewlkelley.blogspot.com.